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Why Most Rape Victims Are Women And Children And Most Rapist Men

The reasons why men are more common as rapists and women and children as their victims.

On average about 90 percent of all rapists are men. The reason for this, is easy seen when looking at he masculine anatomy. Men are on average bigger and stronger than women and children.

Also is the motive of rape not sexual. This is a big misconception that rape has anything to do with a normal sexual attraction. Rape is about power and humiliation.

There you got it: rapist pick their victims carefully. They are out to dominate and humiliate their victims and the best way to do so, is by taking somebody that is below you and that you can handle easily.

Seldom will a mature man have the courage to rape another man. Or the pure physics might make it almost impossible for a woman to rape a man. This does not mean that there are not rare cases of it happening.

Another reason why most rapist are men, is simply because they have on average a lesser empathic view and many boys get raised in a macho culture, that is already downgrading women.

Also is their the problem that many create the myth that victims have brought it on themselves.

Yes, men who pick innocent victims, do downgrade them by abusing their physical superiority and see their victims as objects to their unhealthy need for power, are not that self-secure.

But they lack the empathy to understand and feel what their victims feel, so there is no excuse for their actions. This is another factor why there are few female rapists: women are more empathic or it is socially more accepted for them to be more emotional.

Often victims are so afraid and/or embarrassed to talk, that many rapes are not reported. Or victims start talking years later.

There really is no consensus in what kind of women get raped. Saying she asked for it, because she was wearing a short skirt, is just a way the rapist likes to downgrade his victim again.

Unfortunately, rapists might get away with it. In a macho society, women are often a toy to the lusts of men and some go even a step further.

Pedophiles do not love children, as the word might suggest. They like to abuse the innocence of a child. Many pedophiles are even to insecure to harm a full grown person who might fight back.

Often they make a bound with their victims and the abused kids are too afraid to talk. Many pedophiles that do abuse little or young boys, might not be really gay, but avoid more responsibility.

Yes, raping a little girl might leave more trails, than abusing little boys. Also raping teenage girls might lead to unwanted pregnancies and other responsibilities rapists do not like to take.

The only conclusion you can draw, is that rapists are cruel, emotionless cowards that abuse their higher physical strength to hurt people where they are most vulnerable, being in their sexual integrity, without the will to take responsibility for their actions.

If rapists get caught, they might serve some time in jail, but their victims are often scarred for life.

Many raped women lose confidence in men and might never get a normal relationship. Often they suffer trouble with their self-esteem and end up in abusive relationships and prostitution. Children might have traumas for the rest of their lives and might find trouble dealing with society.

Yes, female rapist do exist and also female pedophiles. Also for them, there is no excuse.

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Comments (10)

I feel the basic premise needs reexamination that rape is done for power. As any man knows, the desire for power will not prepare a man for penetrative sex. Also, having counseled a number of men (I have been in counseling for four decades) it has become clear that for all of them it was simple and plain release of lust. Please do rethink about your basic premise.

Thanks for the comment. I will not say that rapists do not feel lust while doing so, but where I come from, there is also an expression, saying: lust for power. I feel this is more the kind of lust used by rapist, than pure sexual lust. My experience is that they do love to dominate and humiliate their victim and that his is their main drive and not just sex. Of course, rapist will seldom admit the cruel fact that they liked it and felt lust, because they downgraded a victim. I have been a rape victim myself and also spoke to many other rape victims and we all consider it that we were used as objects of submission more than just pure lust objects.

I appreciate the detailed reply you gave me. It does places things in better perspective. At the same time, I feel that the need to dominate and humiliate are secondary and lust is primary. This observation is based upon the interview of numerous rapists whom I counseled over the years. Remember, as many as 60 to 80% of rapists already know the victim and are sexually aroused on seeing the people who eventually become their victims. It was good to start this meaningful dialogue with you.

Hi, Martine. This is zoeyclark from Triond. Really disturbing but essential topic and you have written a solid, professional piece. The latest rape news I heard was from Australia and it really pissed me off. Sure, we are always enraged at the rapist but this time the judge was really awful as well. He actually accepted the defense arguement that a woman can't be raped if she is wearing tight jeans! What the f...? I mean, really. Like if you put a gun or a knife, you can't make her take it off...This news really made me sick...

Hi, Pinar. You are right about this. Fact was that I also wore jeans at that time, but he managed to rip it off, since he had extreme physical power. Men just look for excuses. And judges can be awful as well. @ Shastri, no problem. I do feel that taking a dialogue to this issue is better than pure condemnation. I come up with the things that experts on the matter tell in my country and culture. I never state that lust is not an element. But I do hope we can all agree that it is not a healthy sexual lust, since as far as I know I presumed I was clear to my rapist what I wanted. For me, he was a friend and I kind of dated him, but I did tell him I did not long for sex yet. I did not mind a hug, but that was it and he seemed to have respected that, till one day, when I was home alone and feeling bored, I let him in. Other girls who were friends to him kept telling me he was a great guy and he always respected them. They all claimed he never touched them without their consent. We were just listening to music in my room and he never gave me any sign that he was in for sex. When I turned my back on him, to get another CD, he just grabbed my throat, nearly choked me, undressed me and did his thing. I tried to defend myself and did scratch his arms badly enough to have them bleeding. But I bled worse. It was my first time and I could not fight him, since he was much stronger than me. No, he was not taller. That was why I saw his eyes and they were not about simple lust. He looked more at me as a predator attacking his prey. I can only say it was the most painful event in my life, both mentally and physically. The pain was so bad, I nearly faded, but despite the fact I knew he already took my virginity, I did manage to get him off me at a certain moment, grabbing a statuette and hitting him with it as hard as I could. The only thing is I never dared to talk to anybody and kept telling myself it did not happen and kind of hid the event. When I felt up to making a police report, it was too late to get the evidence from the scene. He got away with his lies and many started testifying against me what I was just a slut who asked for it. The tragedy is that I knew later, one of the girls that testified against me, also got abused by him and he never got a trial, since she did not dare to talk either. He raped me again later, but I did not dare to do anything at that time. Later he also tried to rape a 14 year old girl, who got away. Only few people did take side for me and condemned me, but the problem was that because he started spreading lies on me, several horny creeps tried to get me as well. Well, I never got raped again, but had to dislocate an arm and had to kick somebodies balls literally to scrap, to prevent that. But the truth is that I am the one that is considered a treat to society, according to the system, since I do not like to be an object of lust for men who cannot control themselves.

excellently written article. I have some experience with this, hubby and friends. There is no excuse for this behaviour and it is quite clear that the prison system is not equipped to 'mend' them because I do believe it is an illness of the brain, the only thing for these offenders is castration if they wish to be accepted back into society. again I am out of the vote I think you well deserve for bringing this to our attention. I will buzz and tweet and FB

Martine, I had no idea this happened to you. I hope they caught the b.....d?

Priscilla

I would love if someone would e-mail me if they have an answer:

Most victims are under 30, their physical prime...if it was about power and not sexual attraction, then wouldn't older, weaker women be more likely victims?

I agree with the objectification, I was raped when I was 16, and while we were talking before hand (I took a ride from him) he had broken me down to all of my flaws, he certainly didn't think of me as a person who might have any feelings about this.

Psiberzerker

This artical is woefully opinionated, and misinformed. Part of this is the fact that there is innacurate data on rape, particularly with a female assaulter. Male victims do not, generally report their assaults, so we can only say that "Most REPORTED rapes are Male-on-female" If I were to hazard a guess, I believe it would turn out that male rapists, and female victims are in fact more common, but the fact is, we just don't know.

Secondly, I hate the cliche' that rape isn't about sex. Of course it is, otherwise the rapists wouldn't go to the extra trouble of the sexual act, which complicates the crime. If a serial killer, without an explicit sexual component can be sexually motivated, then it follows that all crimes involving forced sexual action has it as at least a partial motive.

There are 4 basic motives for sexual assaults with male rapists, Power Reassurance is almost totally sexual, while Power-Assertives are also reinforcing an over masculine self image, Anger-Retaliatory is punshing women sexually, and Anger-Exitation requires pain to achieve sexual arousal, or release.

Female rapists rarely fit into these types, except Reassurance (I usually leave off the Power motive because it's misleading). Female reassurance rapists have trouble validating their attractiveness through romantic, and sexual relationships, so turn to stalking, and fantasy.

Another type of female rapist is usually the dominant, or submisive partner in a team. The rape is usually performed by a boyfriend, with varying levels of participation by her, the victim is a surrogate for her own rape fantasies. Wen the submissive role, the female assaulter may be foreced into the behaviour by the dominant partner, but eventually participates willingly. Usually, the female is the one to aquire victims by befriending them.

Lastly, some female rapists are actually pedophiles, or hebephiles. They tend to assault much younger victims, usually as a repetition compulsion to relive their own sexual abuse. Those who molest younger males also usually have a position of authority, such as a teacher, or mothers in the case of parental incest.

Sabrina del Noce

I apologize for my English, it is not my first language. I speak spanish, french and italian.

Another lesbian feminist article about "men are horrible, women are victims".

My husband is a wonderful man, my two sons are wonderful boys, I love my father, my best friends are men, my best colleagues are men. These statistics are usually made by nasty angry lesbian feminists who just hate men.

Lesbians are alpha females who want to get rid of men to mate with beta females and "mock" the heterosexual relation between a straight man and a straight woman.

"The pure physics might make it almost impossible for a woman to rape a man" - WRONG: Women have 75% of the body muscle mass of men. A strong woman could easily beat a weak man.

"Another reason why most rapist are men, is simply because they have on average a lesser empathic view and many boys get raised in a macho culture, that is already downgrading women" - WRONG: Some women (all alpha females and many beta females) show a much lower level of empathy than most men. During a woman's cycle women have almost no empathy towards beta, gamma and omega males, they can only focus on the alpha dominant figure, and that is not what empathy really is.

"Often victims are so afraid and/or embarrassed to talk, that many rapes are not reported. Or victims start talking years later". WRONG: It is far more acceptable in our society to see a woman crying and showing her emotions, our men have to swallow their tears back in their eyes (this expression will probably work in a better way in my language). If a woman is harassed by a man she IS going to report it, if a man is harassed by a woman he is NOT going to report it because he will be ridiculed by friends, family members, the media and so on. These statements are "poubelle", "basura", "immondizia", rubbish.

"If rapists get caught, they might serve some time in jail, but their victims are often scarred for life" - WRONG and more poubelle, if a man rapes a woman, he IS going to prison; if a woman makes a false rape claim, she is NOT going to be punished.

Interesting to notice: New Yorkers ARE americans; americans are NOT (necessarily) new yorkers. The majority of americans are NON new yorkers (285,000,000 americans live outside new york state).

The majority of rapist are men does not mean the majority of men are rapist.

99,99% of men have nothing to do with rape. The remaining 00,01% of them represent the majority of rapist.

I strongly advice that the lesbian feminist should learn logyc, rational thought, maths (yes it is going to help them),

I am an algebra, trigonometria, set theory teacher in a university in Europe. If people learned these thing, they would immediately dismiss all this lesbian feminist nonsense, it's not helping women or men. We all lose.

Thank you for reading.

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