When Sex Gets Old

A seemingly decline in sex interest could be a symptomatic issue for a marriage couples. Sacrificing sexual activity within the marriage can happen quite innocently. A couple while on the course of a routine work schedule and personal achievement forget or become too side tracked to take time to invest in their sexual health. This may be the main reason that both parties are on a downward spiral. Not only will a couple become distant from one another but lack of a physical relationship may eventually be a detriment to their health and lead to marital problems.

Surprisingly, married couples always lose their sexual drive after they’ve given birth to two or more children. There is an old folk saying that married couples no longer share their sex desire when they hit the mid-30s or 40s. The similar condition also happens among childless couples who seldom have regular sexual life when their ages turn 35 and above.

While they’re many reasons why their sex life has evaporated, work pressure and personal interest may contribute to the decrease in sexual life. Whether the myth of the education status tends to melt away sex is still unclear. Lack of communication could just decrease sexual satisfaction.

While couple’s sex lives are being edged out by domestic routines and personal career achievement, many couples are feeling guilty for not fulfilling each others sexual desire.

Often, we’re easily influenced by various medias, including movies, TV shows, the internet or magazines which fill our mind with the ideal of explosive and romantic love stories, instead, in reality, marriage is a job that requires rewarding from each party. There are moments, days, weeks, months and even years that the couples need an interest in sex to “reboot” their boring life. When there is a slump, and sexual needs disappear, the couple will be in an unsatisfied relationship. The stress due to needs being unmet and from inactivity may contribute to overall health problems.

Losing interest in sex could also give rise to a sexual-and mental-related problem. For men, they become depressed. Women who are identified to have sexual dysfunction also display signs of anxiety.

Getting into old age doesn’t mean that sex has to get old. A study revealed that three-quarters of the American males aged 75 to 85 and American females aged 50 and above are still having great interest in sex.

There is always a misconception among the couples that sex is merely for the intercourse, pregnancy and childbearing purposes. And thus, when they get into old age, they would stop having sex. These erroneous assumptions can make them feel that a continual need for sex thereafter is insane and will undeniably suppress their sex urge or may create a stilted situation making it difficult to enjoy sex spontaneously. To think that intercourse is the main factor to serve for sex could leave out physical activity that both parties find a great deal of pleasure in.

Well, now, couples have to make their minds up. There are many issues resulting from a direct effect on reduced sexual life when couples get older. When women get old, biologically, they undergo certain extreme changes in their vaginal area—both their vaginal and vaginal openings get narrower, during which this condition is marked by extremely low levels of estrogen. When this condition occurs, it always takes longer period for the vagina to lubricate or swell when one is sexually aroused. What’s worse, this condition can cause intercourse painful. However, the impact of this painful situation can be alleviated where regular sex life helps stimulate natural lubrication. Often, the use of products such as Glide and K-Y jelly can be very helpful too. Vaginal treatment with estrogen is another great alternative for women to stimulate natural lubrication.

For males when they become older, they may experience a reduced sensitivity for a physiological arousal. It often takes longer time for penis erection. Stronger stimulation is also required for the similar purpose since the time for maintaining erection has become shorter.

While sex can be a great benefit to health, over-emphasis on sexual sensation may lead to misunderstanding. Many couples fear that extreme sexual desire may be harmful for their health and thus they abstain from sexual sensation. When this situation persists, of course, it can minimize the sexual pleasure, thereby affecting the intimate relationship built between husband and wife.

At this point, you shouldn’t let argument proceed, I mean, if you’ve a good marriage without sex sensation that could make you feel better, and both of you feel satisfied, why bother forcing the “issue”? Sex, in general, is good to strengthen bonds, establish a reliable trust and make both parties happier. Its pleasure is beyond the pleasure for you to put on attractive lipstick, driving a new sport car or wearing a fancy beautiful dress. So, there is actually no reason for you to think of sex as an “issue” because it can be improved and become an enjoyable and healthy habit through effective communication.

In conclusion, a reduced urge to have sex can be viewed as a bigger health issue. Certainly, sex life has quenched the inner desire, uplifted motivation to deal with daily challenges while enhancing the immune system.